Sunday, 10 March 2019

What to bring to the Hospital when giving birth


I would like to share with you what we brought to the hospital, when my wife Cheds, gave birth to our son Liam. I hope i would be able to help you figure out what you really need to bring for a 3 days stay at the hospital.



When Cheds and I finished preparing our hospital bags, it looked like we were packing for an out of town vacation.

We had:
1 Baby Bag
1 Personal Bag
1 Personal Luggage
1 Baby Luggage

Let me break down what these bags contain:

Baby Bag (Small)
This was the bag that we brought to the labor room, these are just few baby things, that we thought Liam might need right after birth. It had the ff:

2 Pairs Onesises
2 skull caps
2 pairs socks
2 pairs baby gloves
2 muslin blankets

* When Liam came out, the nurse only asked for 1 muslin blanket, to used as a swaddle for Liam, since St. Lukes already provided a whole outfit when Liam came out

Personal Bag (Small)
This was another bag that we brought to the Labor Room. These are the things that we thought that we (Cheds & I) might need while waiting .
It had the ff:

Cellphone chargers
Power Bank
Digi Cam
Crackers (for dadddy)
Cup Noodles (for daddy)
Pen (you will be filling up a lot of forms, an extra pen may come in handy)

*Dads to bring a jacket, the cold waiting rooms becomes colder when you're a bit nervous

Personal Luggage
This our luggage for all our things good for 3 days 2 nights stay

Toiletries:
Soap
Shampoo
Toothbrush
Toothpaste
Deodorant
* St. Lukes does provide basic toiletries, but we brought our own just to be sure

Clothes for 3 days 2 nights
* Do bring extra clothes just in case the baby accidentally weewees on you
Dads
* Do bring comfortable slippers since the hospital will be your home for a few days

For moms (tips from my wife Cheds):
*Bring comfortable slippers
* Bring an extra bathrobe, the hospital may provide you one, but its better to have extra. Youll be wearing this a lot since visitors may come and go any time of the day, and you may not want to be dressed in just a hospital gown. Plus its easy access for breast feeding.
* You will need maternity sanitary napkins, we bought hers at Mothercare in Eastwood
* You will need Betadine Feminine Wash

*** Mommies, do bring Prune Juice. because you can get constipated after birth, and they will need you to poop :)

Documents
* Marriage Certificate

Baby Luggage
Funny because our Baby Luggage was bigger than our Personal Luggage which Cheds and I just shared. 

My wife organised the baby bag by separating the items by category in big Zip lock bags (You can get this in groceries) For example the Onesies are all in one bag, the Towels are all in one bag, etc.
This helped a lot whenever I needed to get something from the Baby Luggage because, your hospital room can get really messy really fast.

Baby Clothes
Onesies
Skull Caps
Baby Gloves
Baby Socks
* We thought we already brought a lot but apparently Liam needed to change like 4-5 times a day because he would always pee on his shirt every time we would change his diapers, so you can never have too much.

Baby Toiletries
Cetaphil Baby Head to toe wash
Cetaphil Baby Lotion
Bath Hand Towels
Bath Towels
* Whats nice in SL-BGC is that they also taught us how to give our newborn a bath. Scary at first but you'll get used to it after a few tries.

Diapers
Huggies NB (new born)
*We brought 20 diapers, it was enough for 3 days

Swaddle / Muslin Blankets
Halo New Born Swaddle
Muslin Blankets form Baby Company

The Halo Swaddle was very easy to use, its just a 1-2-3 step, but since we only had one, we had to use the Muslin Blankets for swaddling more when the Halo got peed on.
Surprisingly, i preferred to use the Muslin Blankets for swaddling, i enjoyed making a lumpia out of our baby.
The nurses will teach you how to swaddle the baby properly :)

Heres our bags:

My wife organized the Baby Luggage by separating the items in Big Zip Lock Bags

So there! I hope this was helpful if you are thinking about what to bring to the hospital when your wife will give birth!

Thank you for reading!


Friday, 8 March 2019

Our St. Lukes Global City Birth Experience

So are you thinking of choosing St. Lukes BGC for child birth? As much as I can remember, because this happened 8 months ago. Just to give you what its like. Let me share with you our experience.

My wife Cheds, gave birth to our first child, Liam, Last June 25, 2018.  While she was pregnant, we already decided that we will go with St. Lukes BGC. First, because her OB-GYN is there. Second, since this is our first child, we really wanted the best for Cheds and the baby. St. Lukes BGC is known for the best and modern equipments, their building is new and clean, and im sure many of the best doctors are there as well so we really felt that this was the perfect hospital for us.

But, let me tell you right now, going for the best is not cheap. Specially for us since, we just got married the year before. Just a tip for you guys out there. Before you propose to your girlfriend, do make sure that you have enough money for the wedding AND the first baby! Going for SL-BGC is expensive, but i can also tell you that its WORTH IT. We were at ease knowing that Cheds and our baby were in good hands and were getting the best care possible. The nurses were always friendly and polite, the rooms were spacious and the amenities were really nice.

Our Experience:
*again i am sharing only as much as i can remember

So, as i wrote on my last blog, we went to SL-BGC at 1:00am on a monday, so the trip was a breeze.

When we got there we went straight to the OB-GYN complex (When in labor, go straight to OB-GYN complex, not the Emergency Room, so you wouldn't be charged Emergency room fees). We left our big luggage in the car, and only brought our prepared baby bag and a personal bag.

On my next post i will be sharing what we brought to the hospital (hospital & baby bag) and also what we wished we brought.

After the confirmation that Cheds was indeed in labor (5cm dilated) i met Cheds at the HRPU room.

HRPU Room


She was dressed in hospital clothes already, and On the bed when she was brought in

Monitors to measure heart rate & contractions were attached to her.

As the hours go by, the pain started increasing, and the contractions were getting closer and closer together.

The nurse would bring in the paper works for me to fill up and sign.

The nurse also informed us that they already called our OB, Dra. Regina Capistrano. (We always wondered how our dr will be informed when cheds will be in labor, now we know, the hospital will call the dr)

I was advised to secure our deposit at the cashier in the Main Lobby, so I went out for that.

I had no sense of time, but i guess it was around 6 am when they brought in food, strange because Cheds was no longer allowed to drink or eat, so i guess that was for me. (Cheds was only allowed to drink water when she got to the recovery room after she gave birth, so she was extremely thristy)

Cheds was 7cm dilated when she finally asked for the Epidural. But by the time, the pain was unbearable already. I didn't realise that the epidural was a whole procedure in itself. Chedell was brought to another room for this, and it took a while before she was brought back. She was more relaxed, since the pain is gone, but she told me about the whole ordeal. Guys, again I have to commend my wife for this. The whole experience is frightening, imagine inserting a needle in your spine! Our wives really do go thru so much, during child birth.

A few hours later, our OB arrived and checked in on Cheds. Whats nice about her is that she made sure the atmosphere is calm and she was very chill, this was very helpful for Cheds. Read up below about our OB she's great.

So after her last IE, she (ob) informed the nurse that we are ready for the delivery room, and went ahead because she has to prepare also.

I kissed my wife before she was brought out. I was given my own clothes to wear in the delivery room, and asked me to wait to be called. I used this time to pray for God's hand in the whole procedure.

Finally when the nurse called me, she guided me towards the delivery room.

Cheds was already pushing. 2 other doctors were literally pushing her tummy. It wasn't long before they declared "Baby out". I asked Cheds how she was, she was really really tired. The pushing is not easy guys. It really drained her. She had a Normal Spontaneous Delivery. The whole procedure took about 30 mins.

Finally we saw Liam. I cant describe the feeling. If i could describe it in one word, id say "overwhelmed" He cried for a bit, after a few wipes, they gave him to Cheds to breastfeed for the first time, he latched instantly. I think they call it "Unang Yakap".  Cheds was being stitched up at this point. I didn't look. Our OB also reminded me not to look. Why would I.

Hello Liam! Unang Yakap


Then after a few minutes, they asked permission to get the baby for measurements. They called me in for this. We went to the table and showed me all the measurements. They measured the size, length, weight. They counted the body parts, including the fingers. they recorded the birth marks. They made sure that i know all of these. By this time i could here the nurses at the back announcing the inventory of the instruments used out loud, thats good, at least we know they didn't leave anything inside Cheds.

Liam's Weight
Other measurements and check up


They dressed up Liam. The whole outfit was from them. That was the time when they handed me my son for the first time. I wasn't scared to hold him. I introduced myself to him " Hi Liam, Im daddy".  I just held him for a few minutes, still cant believe that im holding my son.




The nurse asked if I wanted a picture in their photo wall. Of course. So we had our pictures taken, i also asked our OB for some pics. I thanked her for the whole thing after.


So, I brought Liam back to the room. He was given back to Cheds. Cheds was all cleaned up by this time. We said our goodbyes, because she will be brought to one of the recovery rooms with Liam so she could rest and they could monitor the baby as well. I could tell Cheds was so exhausted, but she could still smile after enduring everything. You are amazing Cheds.

I went to one of the nurses at the reception of the OB Complex, i think i filled up some more paper works there. She only asked for our swaddle, since Liam was already wearing the St.lukes baby clothes. Then she told me that i can already go to the lobby so i can get a room for us already. They don't allow you to get a room before the baby is born.

So i went to the lobby to get a room for us. I wanted a small private room, unfortunately non was available, so i got a Regular Private room instead. The Regular Private room was nice, and spacious, so the next day when they offered us if we wanted to transfer to a smaller room, since its available already, re refused because the Regular Private is more comfortable. You'll need the extra space for your guests.

Regular Private



cool baby bed


Speaking of guests. Since the baby is very vulnerable to viruses, and of course Cheds and I were still very tired and overwhelmed, we only limited our guests to 1st circle family and only few of our closest friends. I would advise others to do the same so you would have more time focusing on your new born rather than entertaining guests. Also dont be shy to tell your guests, and even your family members that they cannot kiss the baby yet. There are so many horror stories of babies getting infected by life threatening virus and diseases because they were kissed by a carrier that had no idea they were carrying viruses.

I think Cheds stayed in the recovery room for 5 hours before they called me that i can come and get her. So i went down to the ob gyn complex again, she was brought out still in her bed, and Liam is in a glass bed stroller. we were assisted by a nurse who went with us us to our room and made sure that cheds will be able to transfer to her bed properly.

We stayed in the hospital for 3 days. Cheds was able to walk already by the time we were discharged.

St. Lukes BGC really is a great hospital. The rooms are nice, spacious, and clean. They had good amenities. The nurses are friendly, and are always happy to answer our first time parents questions like, is it ok that our baby has hiccups. The patient's food were always good also, i know, because i would always eat half of it. The doctors always took time to answer our questions. We have to commend the head nurse during our stay there, Nurse BEA JOSEPH, she really took care of Cheds, and would always make time to go to our room to make sure that were fine and would stay to answer our questions, and give us advise. Thank you Nurse Bea!




My wife's OB:

My wife's OB is Dra. Regina Capistrano. She first went to Dra. Capistrano for her routine check up when we got engaged, in her clinic in Mega Clinic in SM Megamall. Its good that once we got engaged, Cheds went to the OB even just for a regular check up, i think this was the first time that she went for an Ob Check up, and the purpose was because she just wanted to make sure that everything is ok before she gets married. Thats when we found out that she had PCOS. But since she was checked early, the condition was corrected.
I think I need to share that choosing the right OB-GYN for your wife is very important. From experience, since my wife met her OB more than a year before she got pregnant, they were able to build a good relationship already. Once you are in the delivery room, the constant communication is going to be between your wife and her ob, Our job as husband is to comfort and try not to faint, so its very important she is comfortable with her doctor. This definitely helped Cheds alot while delivering Liam.
We love Dra. Capistrano because she's very practical and very maingat with her patients. She's also very remindful sa mga bawal during pregnancy, and she takes her time during consultations. Sure, because of this, sometimes it could take an hour before you get to see her, (do come early for your appointments), but she really does listen to you and takes her time in explaining the details, and we really appreciate that since we were first timers.
I think the best thing about Dra. Capistrano, is that we felt her love for Cheds as well. She has this very caring, and motherly vibe, thats one of the reasons why Cheds felt comfortable with her right away. I remember, a few months before her due date, Cheds was telling Dra. that she's getting scared already of the the whole birth procedure, and have been having mini anxiety attacks already. But Dra. would always assure her, that its not usually how my wife imagined it to be, and it never is like what they show in the movies. Sure, enough when the time came, Dra. gave Cheds her final IE in the HRPU, and was very chill. She made sure the mood in the room is relaxed, to make sure the mom to be is relaxed as well. She was actually surprised when she was called for Cheds because we were not in her list yet since Cheds just hit 37 weeks exactly. Even the way she told the nurse that its time to go to the delivery room, she just nodded to the nurse with a smile saying something like "Room na tayo" as if just inviting someone for lunch. So Cheds did not get that anxious.
Ched's delivery, though it felt like hours, only took 30 minutes. Like what i said, communication and trust between mom and ob is really important and i think that helped a lot with Ched's fast delivery. After the procedure, Dra. even gave Cheds a small kiss on the forehead, as if saying "good job", i don't know if she does that to all her patients, but like what i said, they developed a good relationship already. Its really nice.
So if you are still looking for an Ob, do try, and we do recommend Dra. Regina Capistrano.

Dr. Ma. Regina E. Capistrano
St. Lukes Medical Center Global City
RM 315, Medical Arts Building
Tel No. 789-7700 Loc 7315
M.W.F.  8:00am - 11:00am
T.Th.S.  4:00pm - 6:00pm
Mega Clinic
5th Flr. Bldg A, SM Megamall
Tel No: 637-9661 - 68
Monday - Saturday 12:00pm - 2:00pm
*schedule & details may change without prior notice



So how much do you really need to give birth at St. Lukes BGC.

I think it wont be the same fo all, because each delivery will be different from the other. It will depend on the procedure, complications, the meds, your labor room, your room where you will be staying in, and the PF of your OB, Pedia, Anaesthesiologist etc.

So there are many factors to contribute to the cost. If you get a semi private, or a ward, if you availed of their Maternity Packages (im not sure if this is available for 1st time moms), i think youll be able to pay lower than what we paid.

For us.  We stayed in an HRPU Labor room. We had a Normal Spontaenous Delivery. We got a Regular Private Room and We stayed in the hospital for Three days.

So we paid roughly around P170 - P180k. Again, not all deliveries are the same, so others may have paid less or more than this



Yes, i know its a lot but, do keep in mind that your wife and your newborn baby will be getting the best care possible.

Looking back. I do praise and thank God for this wonderful experience, and for his provisions that we were able to have our baby delivered and my wife cared for by one of the best hospitals in the country. If we are blessed to have another child in the future, if we could, we probably would choose this hospital.

I hope i was able to give you a glimpse on what its like when your wife is giving birth, i hope this has also been an informative entry for the 1st time parents out there preparing for the big day.


Thank you for reading! Do let me know what you think!

Liam sleeping peacefully :) 




Wednesday, 6 March 2019

How we knew my wife was in labor

When we reached towards the end of the 8th month of my wife's pregnancy, we were told that my wife could give birth at any time already. So we prepared our hospital bag, put them in our car and brought wherever we would go, just in case.

One of our biggest worries was the traffic, because our hospital is St. Lukes BGC and we live in Pasig. If you live in Pasig, you'll know that being caught in rush hour, or just a normal Tuesday afternoon going to Taguig will be a traffic nightmare. So for 6 months every night we prayed for God's perfect timing in giving us Liam.

On June 23, Cheds had her last baby shower. talking to the other mom's, they were telling us then that  it would still be a few weeks before Cheds will give birth, by the look and size of her tummy, and also because "hindi pa sya namamanas" or she was not that bloated yet. So that put us in a bit of an ease.

June 24. Sunday, It was Cheds' 37th week into pregnancy exactly. We were preparing for our typical Sunday family get together, when Cheds kept complaining about her contractions. I would always ask her if she was alright, and she would just brush it off thinking that they were just the normal Braxton Hicks contractions, since people have been telling us that she wont be giving birth any time soon. She said the pain was tolerable, except for this big one that happened around lunch time, but it kept going every 20 - 30 mins. I admit, i should have been more sensitive at this time, because i too just brushed it off and thought nothing of it, so I cluelessly just went on with my day, not realising what was really happening. So around dinner time, Cheds couldn't eat anymore because of the contractions, and decided to just rest in the bedroom. My brother, a doctor, checked her and told us to monitor and time her contractions already. If the pain increases, and the interval between the contractions are getting shorter then we should go to the hospital already to check. 

So to monitor we need the ff info:
Time Started (Contractions)
Time Ended
Duration (How long were the contractions, i used a stopwatch for this)
Interval (mins from the last contraction to the next)
Pain Level (Cheds rated the pain from 1-10)

At 10:30 Cheds told me that her contractions wont stop already, so we began recording. Heres our contraction chart. (Sorry for the hand writing)



So as you can see, by 12:00am , we should have probably went to the hospital already, The timing of the contractions are consistent, the pain is increasing, and the intervals are getting closer. But we wanted to be sure! we didn't really know if these were labor pains already. By the time, my wife was already complaining that theres now back pain with the contractions, i kinda got nervous at that point. So at 1:15 am we decided to go to the hospital (the later recordings were in the car). Funny, we were still denial at that point, because she just hit 37th week! How could she be in labor already?!



Driving to BGC at 1:00am on a Monday is heaven. I was nervous, but didn't need to rush or drive fast. I held on my wife's hand the whole way. We got to St. Lukes in just 15 mins! 

We went straight to OB-GYN Complex (When in labor, go straight to Ob-Gyn not the Emergency Room, Emergency Room fees will cost you extra). Cheds was brought in one of the beds, for IE , to check if in fact she is in labor. Unfortunately, husbands are not allowed to stay in this area so i had to go to the waiting area lobby with the other soon to be dads. It took a while but after a few minutes, we were told that Cheds is 5cm dilated! She was in labor! Liam is coming!



I met Cheds at the HRPU (High Risk Pregnancy Unit), we were laughing because we just realized how clueless we were. We chose this, rather than the regular labor rooms, because these are the only labor rooms where they would allow husbands / chaperones to stay with the moms during labor. I really think that husbands should be allowed to to be with their wives during labor whichever room they choose, from our experience, i think this is the part where the mom shouldn't be alone at all! The whole ordeal is scary, especially for first time moms. 

Thank goodness i was there with Cheds, to hold her and pray with her. 
Guys, i just have to say how much I admired my wife more, after seeing her in labor. That was the first time i saw Cheds in so much pain. Theres this screen where it measures the intensity of contractions, and every time it would spike Cheds would just grab on to my hand and the bed rails in agony. She was 7cm dilated when she asked for the epidural, and that was the only time that she said her pain was level 10 already. I never thought that her pain tolerance was this high, and neither did she. I just want to say, Cheds, my wife, is amazing, and all moms are. 

Heres some pics of our HRPU room:

HRPU room



cable tv

comfortable recliner

spacious cr



Looking back. We thank and praise God for His perfect timing. Everyday for 6 months we would pray that our trip to the hospital would be smooth, and He graciously gave us that. I think God even changed how we would think that night because even as we were on our way to hospital we were still in denial, and did not panic. We probably should have went to the hospital already around the afternoon, but now we are thankful that we didnt, because the labor room charges per hour! We went in the HRPU before 2:00am and Cheds gave birth at around 11:00am. So we actually saved a lot by being clueless that she was already in labor. Of course I wouldn't advise to wait it out at home if you think your wife is in labor already, if we knew better we would have left for the hospital at around noon! 

So if you and your wife notice that the contractions are becoming regular, get a pen, paper, stopwatch, and start recording!

When the pain is increasing, specially if theres back pain, and the intervals are getting shorter, its probably best to go to the hospital already.

I hope this was helpful!

Next post will be our St. Lukes BGC birth experience! 


How much do you really need? 




See you on my next post!


Tuesday, 5 March 2019

Hello! Welcome to my Blog!

Hi!

I am Dice, 30 yrs old, married to my beautiful wife Cheds and just recently have been blessed with our handsome baby boy, Liam.

I am writing this blog to share our experiences and discoveries as a newly wed couple and first time parents, but this time, from the husband's/dad's perspective.


My wife and i got married last July 29, 2017; after 10 years of being a couple. God blessed us with a bouncing baby boy last June 25, 2018.

Being a couple for 10 years, there wasn't much adjustment when we became husband and wife, we practically knew almost everything about each other, so there were no surprises. Eazy peazy.
Then, the baby.

As of writing, Liam is 8 mos old. He is now eating solid foods. He is crawling. He can now pull himself up and stand (amazing moment!), He now utters "ma..ma""ma....meee" and "da..da" and "da..deee" bit by bit, we're not sure if Liam is saying these on purpose to call us, but were claiming it anyway. He's making A LOT of sounds now, actually. He's also more fun to interact with now, as compared to the last few months. He now smiles at the sight of you, and laughs (best sound in the world) whenever you make a funny face or noise. and has a strange fascination with the TV remote control. Yes, dozens of bright, colourful, child safe, bpa free, led free, baby toys lying around, and he wants the remote.
He now also makes sure that you know when he DOESN'T like whats going on. Like screaming bloody murder when putting on a shirt. Or sucking his lips tight when were trying to give him his constipation meds, thus creating a big sticky mess. His sleep schedule has become unpredictable as well, where, he would have a long good night sleep today, but would wake up every hour the entire night on the next.

Right now, if I could describe being a new parent in three words it would be, "The Good(milestones & laughs), The Bad(tantrums), and the Ugly(diapers)". But, "The Good" definitely out weighs the bad and the ugly like a hundred fold.

To be completely honest, my wife and I were still adjusting with this "ADULTING" thing, when "ADULTING-PARENTING" phase happened. But we are learning as we go. There are times when we become so tired, and we daydream about the nights when we would just go out for drinks and watch movies whenever, but seeing your son sleeping peacefully at 7pm really makes the small sacrifices, so worth it.

So, like what I've been saying, we are new at this. I'll be sharing with you as much as i can about this parenting thing, and hopefully be helpful to those in the same situation as we are or were, but also if you have become a pro at this already, then please please do share your wisdom!

 We're all in this together.

(fade out, cue in Highschool musical).
                           

                                       





P.S.
If I run out of english. We will taglish. Ok lang? Ok.








What to bring to the Hospital when giving birth

I would like to share with you what we brought to the hospital, when my wife Cheds, gave birth to our son Liam. I hope i would be able to h...